On Soulmates

My first blog in a while. I have been quite busy, though happy.

Soulmates.
1.) What are they.
2.) Do you believe in them?

*Disclaimer: may contain religious tangents.
Additional disclaimer: I do not follow any set format for this, I am writing as I surmise.

Abstract: I make lists. I sometimes define things. I make suppositions. HOWEVER, I do ultimately make an assertion, so you may want to skip to that if you hate mental meanderings.

I assume a soul mate is someone that you are "supposed" to be with.
But I still maintain a few ideas of what it could mean in addition to that.
-Someone you were born to be with.
-Someone who fits you perfectly.
-Someone who completes you.
-Someone who makes you into a better person.
-Someone divinely appointed to be with you.
etc.

There could probably be any combination of all of the above in any one person's idea of what a soul mate is.

Here are a few additional thoughts I have entertained.

I believe the archetypical idea of what a soulmate is can be defined something like this... "someone, as in one person, who is also on the planet Earth that is 100% your perfect match." 
This idea can hold a variety of interpretations as well, such as:
-Do you believe that no matter what you are going to end up with that person? Most people would disagree with this, for safety's sake alone.
-What if that person falls in love, or gets stuck in a relationship that they fail to get properly exit? Or what if youdo those things? Does that mean that your soulmate is left high and dry?
--Side note: what if that person is significantly older or younger than you are, and circumstances prevent proper interaction?
-What if you fail to meet this person? (through various reasons)
-What if your soul mate died? (I have entertained the notion, and written somewhat extensively on the possibility).


Ultimately, I believe that many would assert a soulmate is not actually limited to being a single individual.
Ironically, the name kind of implies one person.
However, there is then the notion of how many soul mates does one have?

I, myself, am somewhat more reserved. Someone with a more extraverted personality may be inclined to believe that there are a plethora of individuals that could qualify as being a "soul mate." So where do you draw the line?
Are there 3?
Are there only 5 on the planet at any given time and they repopulate in order to maintain equilibrium?
Do different people have different numbers of plausible soul mates? (Meaning I have only 3, but one of those 3 has a list of 12) ?


I feel that this sort of argument is invalid based on absurdity.

Instead of focusing on who is the soul mate, I want to articulate my thoughts on what a soulmate is.

-Born to be with. I think you can throw this one out the window, look at all the unhappy marriages and divorce rate in America alone. 

-Fits you perfectly has a little bit more merit. 
It feels a little bit more realistic, though perhaps a tad less idealistic. People can fit each other perfectly. I've seen it. Sometimes its through similarity, and sometimes it is through compatibility. (this ties directly in to the other possible answer of 'someone who completes you') Sometimes people fit together because they're different and they fulfill parts of you that are missing.
I am far more inclined to feel that this aspect is contained within the identity of a soulmate.

-Makes you into a better person.
Interestingly, I feel that this aspect isn't required. DONT GET ME WRONG HERE. All I want to say is that being better, or worse, that you were before is an opinion. I think a soulmate is someone that will make you feel better.

Before I finish, I'll touch on whether or not God determines your soul mate. But it will require a whole new list.
-Does God determine every course of event for your life, or do you have choice?
--If you believe in free will, you can't really claim that everyone has a singular soulmate. Sometimes people choose to commit suicide. Or sometimes babies are aborted. Did that baby have a soulmate? Did someone abort my soul mate?
--What if I miss the opportunity to meet my soulmate because of some choice I made, like being shy?

-Do you believe that God is supposed to grant you a soulmate.
--What if God's plan for my life doesn't include a spouse?
--What if God planned my life to be as solitary as it is because I am basically preparing for a life alone? And what if that somehow ties in with my destiny? (Destiny's are an entire subject I won't get into right now ><)


Ultimately I conclude this:
Soulmates are not limited to being any number of people. What a soulmate is... is an ideal. There are multiple facets to what makes your soulmate your soulmate, kind of like a diamond. Or an onion.
No person's soulmate is someone elses soulmate. People are people, and people are different. No people are the same.
So, and heres the kicker...
Having a soulmate is a state of mind.


I'm sure we've all heard someone claim that they have a soulmate before. Try and think about all of the times you've believed them when they've said it (or you've believed yourself when you've said it). That is essentially what I am trying to encapsulate.


My apologies for my long-windedness and my lack of proper grammatical structure.


A song:Coolio - Gangster's Paradise